eCourse — BDSM Advanced — Lesson 3 & 4

Corrective Measures and Punishment

Due to the intricate connection between corrective measures and punishment, I am combining these two lesson plans to make it easier for you to integrate and comprehend their nuances and how they work in conjunction with each other.

The natural progression of a slave or submissive when entering into a relationship is that he or she is trained, corrected, punished and finally dismissed if all else fails. Here’s how it works.

The submissive or slave is trained to do a specific task. If the submissive does not understand or does not follow through on what is requested or required, the submissive is corrected. If the correction provided does not remedy the situation, punishment is administered. If training, correction, or punishment doesn’t correct the behavior dismissal from service may result.

Below is an example of the natural progression to training a slave on performing a specific task.

The submissive is instructed that when he is told to present himself for inspection, he will stand with his arms behind his back, right palm over left, fingers flat not interlocked, shoulders pressed back, head held high, eyes straight, feet slightly apart. (This is the same position as Parade Rest in the military.)

The submissive follows all the instructions; however, he erroneously placed the left palm over the right. His Master or Mistress will then correct the position talking him through it once more. If he again errs he is again corrected and made to perform the presentation several times until the Dominant is sure he has it correct. Tomorrow or a few days in the future when he again is instructed to assume this position and fails to do so properly, the Dominant has several forms of corrective measures to use, whether that is to retrain the individual to reinforce the proper way to present himself or to use punishment. (We’ll address specific punishments in our next lesson.)

Let’s break down the corrective measures further so that you may see what it looks like and how it leads to behavior modification. If you want to know how to institute change and the value of “punishment”, review a few therapeutic manuals on behavior modification as well as a few books on Dominant guidelines. For our purposes, we’re going to get the “down and dirty basics” to help the Dominant elicit the behavior she or he desires from their submissive.

It’s imperative to remember that when dealing within the power exchange there’s only three choices when it comes to corrective measures. Understanding which comes first is essential in establishing the foundation of the relationship and ensuring it flourishes to its utmost potential. As with any other relationship, if you address the issues before they become problems and communicate effectively you can create a joyous union. If not, you’ll create a nightmare you’ll long to escape from which will only serve to make you feel inadequate and frustrated. Nowhere else is the old adage, “You reap what you sow,” more true than when in a BDSM relationship.

Corrective measures are not about making the person feel bad nor humiliating the slave and should follow the pattern of training, correction, punishment and dismissal. Punishment should never be a Dominant’s first choice of action. Like with learning to swim, you want to build up to Punishment not “jump in the deep end”.

Here’s how it works: if the slave does something the Master or Mistress doesn’t like, then training is the order of the day. It’s the Dominant’s responsibility to mold the individual into the slave they desire.

Imagine it like starting a new job. Your boss or supervisor (the Dominant) will teach you what is required and how it’s done in that job (Protocols). If you mess up and your supervisor doesn’t correct you or didn’t provide enough training then it’s really not the new employee’s fault—but the supervisor’s.

Now, if the employee (the submissive) is provided with the adequate training (Protocols) necessary and is still not meeting the expectations, then correction is necessary. At this point, the supervisor (the Dominant) will go over what is required and even have the employee (submissive) recite the requirements to him or her to ensure the employee is correct and if necessary reword or clarify any confusion there may be.

As we continue with this example: if despite the training the employee (submissive) was provided he is still unable to follow through appropriately and still makes mistakes or his performance is not acceptable, then it’s time for the Master or Mistress (employer) to consider the following:

(a) Is further training appropriate?

(b) Do the ritual or protocol need to be changed or modified?

(c) Should the slave/submissive (employee) be referred out for specialized training?

(d) Is punishment the correct next step or is dismissal warranted?

In a work situation, corrective measures could mean loss of pay or commission even suspension. Specialized training can be made by assigning the employee (submissive) to another boss or trainer (Dominant) or sending them to a specialized training course (a slave training academy as outlined in the Resources Chapter).

In a BDSM relationship, corrective measures could be physical such as a Spanking, Flogging, even humiliation or sending the submissive for training to another individual or organizations (such as a Slave’s Retreat as various BDSM organizations provide.) Again, this is no different than in the vanilla realm where the employee would be sent to Human Resources for training or sent to an outside agency for management development.

If after a predetermined time the situation doesn’t resolve itself, dismissal (firing) should be considered. Dismissal is where a slave is advised that they are not appropriate and they will no longer interact with the Dominant. Their ties are severed. The submissive will also have their collar removed.

As for what corrective measures to use and punishments to institute, that’s wide open to your imagination. I always believe that the corrective measures and punishment should fit the crime, so to speak. For instance, if someone was rude, stick them in a closet for 30 minutes or make them scrub the entire bathroom naked and with clamps on their nipples and genitals.

If they were disrespectful: kneeling on dry uncooked rice for an hour in the corner facing the wall with half-filled buckets or glasses full of water in their outstretched hands is in order. If they spill the water, they will be “corrected” for that mishap at a later time and the time requirement can be started again from the beginning or anywhere in between.

The differences in the intensity of the punishments and corrective measures differs greatly between Dominants and Sadists. A Sadist may be more corporal in their punishments. Emotional Sadist will incorporate a psychological component as well.

Assignment:
Read Chapters 7 & 8 on Training a slave and Punishment & Humiliation Play; for more in-depth discussions and ideas.

If you have any ideas for, and want to know if they’re realistic or want feedback on them, feel free to share.

If you wish to discuss how to create or implement punishment or corrective measures or wish to determine if they will work or how to intensify them, please provide your examples. Please note there is no judgment nor taboo in the punishment or corrective measures you create or experience as a submissive.

Feel free to ask any other questions you may have based on the material covered thus far.

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