Punishment
It may not surprise you to discover that Humiliation Play can also be used as Punishment. However, you may be astonished to learn the emotional connection these two types of interactions have on an individual depending on whether they are the Dominant or the submissive.
As I previously mentioned, the severity of the punishment should be in direct proportion to the offense committed. For example, the first time a submissive is perceived to be rude his Master or Mistress can address the behavior with a verbal reprimand—thus following the progression of Corrective Measures we previously discussed. If this is the slave’s second or third offense, he or she can receive a spanking.
Punishment can be administered for any offense whether it’s behavior or lack of taking action or completing a task or complete the task in the time allotted.
Punishment can take many forms. For instance, it can be in the form of a spanking, sending the slave to the corner for a “time out” (yes, like a disobedient child), or in the form of making the slave practice getting into the position for another hour or so. The choice of corrective action and punishment is at the sole discretion of the Master and Mistress.
Punishment can also be to send the submissive home and not engage with him or her further that day thus depriving the slave of the time they wished to share with the Dominant based on their own actions. And though yes, this temporary dismissal will also deprive the Dominant from sharing time with their submissive, the Dominant never wants to reward bad behavior otherwise you will end up with a brat.
A good rule for the Dominant to follow is to never use a submissive in pleasure on the same day the submissive was punished!
Another important factor about correction and punishment is that it shows the submissive/slave that their Master and Mistress considers them valuable enough to correct their behavior. This correction and punishment helps strengthen the emotional bond between the two. It creates a measure of “calm” and “security” within the slave as they realizes that someone will be there to call them on any inappropriate or dangerous behavior making them feel appreciated and loved.
Keep in mind that punishment doesn’t always have to be physical in nature. Some punishments can be psychological in nature as well which at times can be more effective to curtail bad or inappropriate behavior. Here’s an example of a psychological punishment:
Tying a submissive up and then refusing to touch them, just leaving them tied for a period of time in an uncomfortable position. For an added psychological twist, let them know they’ll have to remain in that position for two turns of the Hourglass or two rings of the egg timer. The psychological toll will take effect as they watch the sand run out on the hourglass or here the ticking of the egg times. When it’s two turns of the hourglass or two rings from the egg timer, the psychological impact becomes even more profound as the second ring will seem to take forever. (It’s akin to waiting for a pot of water to boil when you’re watching it.)
To intensive the punishment, you can tie your slave up then use another submissive in front of them showing your slave what he or she missed out on because of their own inappropriate behavior.
Punishing the submissive with something they hate or hate to do, is also very effective.
A Dominant always wants to be cognizant of the submissive’s motivation behavior his inappropriate behavior. If the submissive is purposefully acting inappropriate, this is evidence of an individual who is showing lack of respect and the Dominant must determine if continuing with that slave is in their best interest. If their behavior is repeatedly disrespectful, it is best to dismiss the submissive and seek another who is more appropriate. You DO NOT want to say in a bad relationship—especially one that has a D/s context.
Assignment:
Read Chapters 9
If you have any ideas on punishment or want to know if what you’re thinking of is realistic, please email me. I can review it and provide my comments. Please note, there is no judgment nor taboo in the punishments you create or experience as a submissive.
Feel free to ask any other questions you may have based on the material covered thus far.
Send your assignment responses and comments to eCourse@doctorcharley.com
Your assignments, questions, and comments will be reviewed and responded to within normal business hours Monday through Friday. You do not need to wait for a response before moving on to the next lesson.
If you need immediate assistance, please feel free to contact me directly at the number listed below. I am available Monday thru Friday 1:00 to 9:00 p.m. EST.
Click here for the next Lesson 6
Special Offer
BDSM Writers Con is for everyone interested in writing about or exploring the world of Dominance and submission.
Over 40 hours of workshops and LIVE Demos, a BDSM Club Night, Award Ceremony, Mix and Mingles with your favorite BDSM authors and more. August in New York City. Learn more at BDSM Writers Con
Save $50 discount for being an eCourse member use code: STUDENT
Special Offer
LIVE & RAW
Join me for a no-holds barred talk show about sex, relationships, and life in this private LIVE weekly Webinar session. There is no censorship and no topic is taboo! Chat with other group members in our private group forum and share your thoughts, opinions and advice.
Dr. Charley Ferrer
America’s BDSM Expert
718-916-4124
www.doctorcharley.com
www.bdsmforwriters.com
www.bdsmthenakedtruth.com
www.bdsmwriterscon.com
Twitter: @doctorcharley.com
Facebook: www.facebook.com/doctorcharley
Youtube: www.youtube.com/doctorcharley
Copyright 2011 Dr. Charley Ferrer
All information in this eCourse is the intellectual property of Dr. Charley Ferrer. No portion of this eCourse can be used or forwarded to others without the expressed written permission from Dr. Charley Ferrer.