The old rules on dating need a little tweak to make them more realistic and in tune with our fast paced lives of telecommuting, Internet dating, and social media. Though these virtual dating avenues are the “lazy man’s” version of dating, nonetheless below are a few dating tips to help you find the right one person for you.
Tip #1: Look beyond the pretty face
Though chemistry is something every relationship needs, don’t let physical attraction be your only measurement of the person. Close your eyes and look within. Geeky boys and average looking girls will surprise you with their sincerity and affectionate, two very important aspects in any relationship. Having a Supermodel or a gorgeous Cabana boy by your side is thrilling, however at the end of the day you may find something lacking. Thus before starting your search for the ultimate mate, put pen to paper and write down the values you admire and the attributes you desire in someone you’d like to spend 10, 20, even 50 years with. Then put your blindfolds on or sit before your computer and start searching.
Tip #2: Dating on a budget
Who doesn’t love to be pampered and showered with gifts? Finding ways to make ends meet and still splurge a little on your partner can be hard but not impossible. All you need is a little creative planning. Break free from traditional gifts such as roses, chocolate and a meal to entice your partner. Switch those mundane roses for wild flowers, the chocolate for her favorite treat and have a picnic instead of dinner out. A little wine, some cheese and crackers, even a sandwich or dessert and you have an inexpensive date with lots of added brownie points tossed in. Plus, you don’t even have to tip the waiter. And kissing your partner is always allowed.
Tip #3: Couch Potatoe –vs– Adventurer
If you’re spending most of your time indoors because you can’t keep your hands off each other, enjoy the ride. However, if you’re sitting in front of the television from the time you walk through the door till you leave, it’s time to find a new lover. Turn the television off and read a book, listen to music, better yet, communicate your thoughts about life. Go out for a walk and discover your own neighborhood or go out to the city and discover there. Try a new sport, Rock Wall climbing is interesting. Or try something you’d never thought possible like a Trapeze class. It’s ok if you scream as you fly through the air. Or look for demo classes in various fields. I once took a demo class on flying a helicopter. I can now hold one on course for five whole seconds. Those are bragging rights! You try it and see how long you can keep it from spinning. It really doesn’t matter what you try, it’s the
adventure and most of all, sharing it with your partner during or afterward.
Tip #4: Communication
The most important aspect of any relationship is communication. Being on the same page and understanding each other’s needs is paramount to a healthy relationship. This includes discuss your sensual desires and needs. In them lays your self-esteem, self-worth and these beliefs form the basis of your entire relationship. Communication is paramount if you want your partner to be happy and not wonder elsewhere. Once in a relationship, most of the sexual tension stems from vulnerability and fear of rejection. Avoid these by discussing the fears, anxiety, and most of all the misconceptions surrounding them. It’ll make those 10, 20, even 50 years more enjoyable.
As your relationship grows establish other rules for yourself, support each other, and speak freely. Be honest with yourself and your love interest. Sometimes they can be perfect in every way but sensually isn’t one of them. That’s ok, keep them as a trusted friend and continue your search. Remember, so long as there’s a Frog in your bed your Prince or Princess won’t appear.